Managing Holiday Stress

Holiday time presents people with unique challenges to their sense of control, emotional stability, and wellness. The world around us at holiday time presents itself as joyful and excited but those who suffer from depression, are grieving, lack family support, or are simply struggling can find this time of the year very challenging. It can exacerbate bad feelings when one is surrounded by joy but feeling terrible inside. People may resort to over drinking, over eating, rely on sexual acting out, or go into a downward spiral. 

There are things you can do to help yourself:

• Take a break from it all. Give yourself the time and space you need to recharge. Be sure to make time for the activities and down time that fuels you whether it be a coffee with a trusted friend, a night alone watching TV, or a yoga class. 

• Reach out to loved ones and professionals. Try to allow yourself the support and help you need.

• Say no. It's OK to say no. With all the holiday parties and family events there's a lot that's expected and you have needs to. Prioritize. Ask yourself which ones will be the most fulfilling for you and which ones you can skip. If you want to be there for someone but you're just not up for a group gathering just say so and suggest a get together at another time.

• Do a check in with yourself.  There's nothing more difficult to manage than something unknown. Use this as an opportunity to get in touch with your feelings. Ask yourself what exactly is it that is making you anxious, sad, or lonely? This is the first step to being present and that is the best gift you can give yourself.